Ok, perhaps you can help me with my wedding dilemma... for once it's not what to wear but whether i should go? You see I have someone in our family who is getting married in a church and in a temple. The groom is from the Christian tradition and the bride from a Hindu one - so one wedding two ceremonies, church and then temple...
That has created a bit of tension in the wider family - should we go to the temple part of the ceremony?
Some of the fears are:
Worshipping a pantheon of gods - by partaking in the Hindu ceremony we may be worshipping some foreign gods at best or at worst condoning the Hindu faith. Is this a good way to witness?
Spiritual attack - by heading off to a temple to spend a few hrs there who knows what negative spiritual forces we'll be unwittingly be subjecting ourselves too?
Some of the reasons for going are:
Facing fear/hypocrisy: is it really a good enough reason to be scared about one set of gods when most of the time we have no problem heading off for our secular temples and worshipping the gods of consumerism, individualism and self or indeed any others? Are the western gods worse than the eastern ones? Is it better to face our fears and recognise that just as people came to my wedding who weren't a christian and i didn't expect them to be my God worshipper by the end of the ceremony that there are different levels of participation?
Spiritual blessing: Rather than being afraid of what spiritual forces are out to get us, should we not go with the attitude of being a blessing, of bringing the light, love, prayer, presence of God with us and partner with God in showing love and letting God's love drive the fear out of us?
Celebrating what we hold in common: commitment is becoming rarer in our society, a wedding which is a public commitment, a declaration of intent and a set of vows/promises made -should not such a rash move of selflessness and hope in the face of our cynical world be celebrated and witnessed, whatever culture or religion it is taking place in?
Ok I notice that all of the above is quite bible-lite... so any scriptual suggestions/examples/thoughts/principles are also welcome :)
Help me out please...
So what would you do? What would your reason(s) for going or not going be?